For those of you that didn’t know … today was a FaceBook “Hug A Filipino” Day. Except since I’m too new to this area, I’ve not gotten any hugs today. Which has been made worse since I haven’t even been able to give my favorite Pinoy … Hubby, of course … a great big bear hug. (Alright everyone … I wanna here a collective “Awwwwrrr ….” 😛 )
But before you go about sending hugs my way, I want to ask you to click over to this blog and give this wonderfully awesome incredible and brilliant woman a hug. She. Deserves. It. Definitely more than I do today. And it breaks my heart that she has to go through this. So pop on over and show her some bloggie love. And maybe if we give her enough love, she’ll continue to write … and stay in our little corner of the blogiverse (hint hint …)
Okay, back to my regularly scheduled nonsense.
I’ve been on this Facebook kick lately (as evidenced by my last post). And while I’ve been on there for the past couple years, it only seems like over the past few months I’ve been finding more and more “old” friends from grade school all the way up to my first post-college job. It’s been fun catching up with them and seeing what they’ve been up to since the last time we talked to each other.
I’ve totally enjoyed perusing through all their pictures; many of them old photos of when they were young. There were even some pictures of me at that age. And trust me … seeing those early to mid 80’s photos just had me rolling on the floor!
Of course, many of them are now married. No … not all of them have children, but I’d say the majority of them do. Not only do many of them have one child but two … or more. And seeing those pictures of their family? It amazes me how some of their kids look *so much* like them; some of them mirror images of how I remembered them in our youth.
I didn’t bring this up to grumble about my childless situation. Or how Hubby and I haven’t been able to produce a biological child of our own. That is simply our reality. Unfortunately. No … the difficult part of reconnecting with these friends and seeing these pictures is seeing how much their lives have changed. And seeing how much having children have enriched their lives. Or how much their daily occurrences revolve around their family. How even reading their “status updates” tend to reflect what’s going on in their household; whether their child is sick or what fun (or even not-so-fun) activities they’ve done that day.
My wish is that my life could have some of that flurry of activity … some of that day-to-day action. And although I am an admitted procrastinator, I tend to work much better under pressure … and thrive on it. While I know that having a child will definitely add extra “stress” to anyone’s life, what I long for is that consistent inconsistency of every day life. Those twists and turns that make the days just a little different than one another. That don’t make the days go by as if it’s once again “Time to make the doughnuts,” a-la-Dunkin’ Donuts.
That last statement does not mean that my daily life with Hubby is routine. If anything these past few months with the new job, subsequent move and current living-in-different-cities has definitely been far from “the norm.” And our immediate future, once we’re together under the same roof, will definitely be a series of new adventures.
But once things settle down … then what? Will my new job suddenly become just “a job” again? What new things can we experience once we’ve explored our new city? Will Hubby & I once again fall back into the “Fred the Baker” routine?
I guess that’s what I’m terrified of. That I’ll revert back to a daily “nothing ever changes” routine. That I’ll once again feel “stuck” with where I’m at in life. That Hubby and I will be standing along the sidelines observing everyone else … all those old friends and family members … move forward to new milestones, new achievements in their lives. When, quite frankly, we’d rather be active participants ourselves.
But enough of this bellyaching for now. Instead, I’m going to head back out into my FaceBook world and virtually hug every Filipino I know. Because who knows when the next “Hug A Filipino Day” will come around!
8 Replies to “Time To Hug A Filipino”
First of all… ::HUG:: 🙂
I feel the same way when I look at my friend’s Facebook pages. While of course I’m happy for them, it’s a constant reminder of what my husband and I are missing. I rarely update my status because I figure it’s too boring!
I’m sorry I’m late to hug you — can I still???
I’m so stuck.
Stuck stuck stuck.
But I keep thinking that things will evolve, one way or the other…but its hard. I feel the same about FB — and the added frustration of not feeling like I can talk openly about IF like I can here.
Oh and I am totally writing about Gran Tourino soon — I was so pissed at the audience when I saw it — I think you mentioned that in your experience too?
Anywho…I’m thinking of you and this long midwestern winter.
First things first – Big hugs to you! You seriously rock!
Thanks for bringing a smile to my face and I promise to call soon, maybe this weekend.
I am busy doing *Stuff* and it’s not fun.
Here are some cyber (((HUGS))) for you, Emily!!
I can relate to so much of what you wrote. I belong to a scrapbooking board, a small group of women, & there is a daily thread where everyone checks in & talks about what have planned for that day. Everyone else is doing this & that with their kids. My updates are always so boring, because there is such a sameness to my days. I will admit that I am a bit of a creature of habit, but at the same time, I sometimes feel like I am in a rut.
The hard thing about infertility & loss & childlessness is that we were ready & willing for our lives to change in a big way — & yet here we are, still doing pretty much the same things we always have. I’m not inclined to quit my job & run off to a desert island somewhere, etc., but I keep thinking a little more excitement beyond getting up & going to work each day would be a good thing.
Damn, I missed it!
Oh well: HUG!!!
Come by my blog — I was tagged for an award today that I’d like to pass along to you! : )
I am addicted to facebook too. Your updates, though I know not what you’d like them to be, aren’t boring to other people.
That sucks about your friend. I swear, IF is like a steam roller, no?
I like to watch Jon & Kate Plus 8, but their marriage is no fun. I am sure that they love each other, but good grief could she emasculate him any more? I know she doesn’t mean to….but still.
Sorry I’ve been scant on the blogging.
I hugged a Filipino today! I did I did!!! Betcha can’t guess who. haha.