Not quite the “suprised” look I was look­ing for in my batch of pics …

Wow. Oh, wow! I woke up to a great suprise this morning.

Well, okay … tech­ni­cally I was at work where I should have been updat­ing all my staff’s data­bases for 2010* … but yeah. Instead I was tweak­ing some stuff on my blog.

Which, by the way. Like the new look? I fig­ured it was time to shake it up a lit­tle, as it’s been about two years since I’ve changed my look. (Really, I’d love to do my own lit­tle design … but yeah, that would mean the cheap­skate in me would have to shell out moolah.)

ANYHOO ... As I was say­ing, I was on my blog do some admin stuff when I noticed a par­tic­u­lar person’s <clears throat> Mel <cough> web­site URL kept pop­ping up on my “Refer­rers” sec­tion. So imag­ine my suprise when I found out some WONDERFUL per­son wrote a lit­tle ditty about how much my blog inspires them.

Wow. That just totally blew me away. I feel like I should be stand­ing up behind the magic mike stand (you know, the one that dis­ap­pears once the per­son is done speak­ing?) to thank the entire blo­go­v­erse for allow­ing me to write as freely as I do. And specif­i­cally to thank every­one for actu­ally read­ing my words.

Oh, and did I men­tion this was all done anony­mously ?! So … seri­ously, *THANK YOU* to whomever wrote such beau­ti­ful words about me. You hon­estly don’t know how much it means to me …

The “Stir­rups Queen” her­self (with the Tiara) along with me, Io and Aunt Becky (left to right) at BlogHer 2009

Any­way, for those of you that aren’t famil­iar with Mel from Stir­rup Queens … she is one of the ALI (Adop­tion, Loss and Infer­til­ity) community’s biggest chief­tans. She is *the* per­son who has man­aged to orga­nize the lot of us ALI blog­gers under one roof … and she’s typ­i­cally the one who puts the “shout out” to all of us when one of us in need of good sup­port. That’s why it’s per­fect that she used to blog under the name “The Town Criers.”

Okay … so yeah, get­ting side­tracked here again. But I thought it’s very impor­tant for those that may stum­ble onto my site for a vari­ety of rea­sons to know where to find a com­pre­hen­sive list of resources for Adop­tion, Loss and Infertility.

HOWEVER … I *am* finally get­ting to the point of this post and how it ties (ba-​​dum-​​dum) into February’s NaBloPoMo theme. And it’s this …

One of the rea­sons I started blog­ging about my Infer­til­ity jour­ney was because I felt extremely alone. I felt that there was no one in my imme­di­ate sur­round­ings that would even begin to under­stand what I was going through. Throw in the fact that I’m Filipino-​​American, where being a mother is seen as a woman’s main pur­pose in life and where infer­til­ity or loss isn’t ever talked about amongst even the clos­est of close fam­ily mem­bers … well, yeah. Let’s just say that, other than my Hubby, I didn’t feel as if I had any sup­port AT ALL.

Vis­it­ing Kara in La Jolla, Aug 2008

But as I began to peruse through other IF-er’s blogs, I began to feel less alone … less iso­lated. And stum­bling onto Mel’s blogroll? Well yeah, I totally hit the jackpot.

From there I man­aged to find a bunch of other blog­gers that have since become closer to me in the blo­go­v­erse than some of my IRL friends. I’m sure that part of the rea­son is the vast inter­net space that sep­a­rates us; which, in turn, allows us to be more open and hon­est to each other than those who might even live under the same roof.

So how does this relate back to the whole “Ties” theme for NaBloPoMo? It’s simple.

Some­times there is one com­mon thread that ties one com­plete stranger to another one. In my world … specif­i­cally my Blog World … it’s my infer­til­ity. And now, as I travel down a new path … it’s my deci­sion to live with my hus­band child-​​free after infertility.

Again … thank you Miss (or Mis­ter?) Anony­mous for such lovely words. Some­times it’s those lit­tle suprises in life that keep pro­pelling me for­ward … espe­cially in my quest to find the next grand adven­ture in my life.

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*What can I say? I’m a month behind? And isn’t that the story of my life?!

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