I knew when I decided to take on a new career path that I would be separated from him for at least two months. And I knew that we’d see each other on the weekends, as we both spent the time concluding business at our old place while moving into our new one. What I didn’t expect was that it would be so hard to say good-bye. Especially this first time.
Except it’s not good-bye. Rather it’s a “See you in 4 days.” But that doesn’t stop my heart from feeling as if it’s a ball of yarn unraveling as the distance between the two of us widens.
Since being married more than a decade ago, we have never been more than two days apart from each other … two and a half, at most. While I know many couples have survived in long distance relationships or cherish the time that they have on their own, we’re just simply not like that.
I’ve had it said to me that it’s “unnatural” that the two of us want to spend each and every moment together. That it’s strange that we enjoy all the same activities, or that we take an interest in whatever any hobby or activity that the other one decides to take up. I’ve even been told that perhaps his involvement in every aspect of my life is more of a “control” issue or a “possessive” streak in his personality.
The truth is that we’re just not a very sociable couple. Not to say that we don’t have wonderfully close friends or even closer family members. It’s just that we don’t tend to go out with other friends or couples a whole lot. Other than our hobbies and activities, we are very much homebodies. And we quite enjoy being as such.
So that is what makes this temporary separation much more difficult. At least for me; especially as I’m in a completely new and wonderfully strange environment. Because as excited as I am to be here, I just wish my best friend was by my side to experience everything with me.
those pix are adorable!
separation is hard when you’re not used to it. my hub and I talk every day when we’re apart, sometimes more than once.
I know how you feel! My job sometimes takes me away for weeks at a time. But we still talk several times a day when we are apart. hell, even when I’m in town, we text and call several times a day. Separation is hard!
I hope the time goes by quickly for you.
I understand entirely. I don’t see Daver often during the week, but the times I do have with him then, I’m jealous of it. Like, I get annoyed as hell if someone else dare infringe upon it.
Dh & I spent three years in a long-distance romance before we got married (pre-Internet) & it totally sucked. Since then, we have rarely been apart, & I’ve been away from him more than he’s been away from me. (I did not like it when he was!)
We get needled by others about being so close sometimes too. I think people are just jealous. ; )
I am with you on that! Darrell and I pretty much are the same way.
We’re just around the corner 🙂
(except now, I’m in Milford another day )
The first time my sweet husband and I were separated for more than two days he put little origami animals in various pockets of my suitcase.
The last time we were separated, his mom was in the hospital and I put little notes in the suitcase for him.
It sucks, but homecoming is wonderful!
I don’t think it’s unnatural at all to want to be close to your best friend. My husband is miltary so I know what it feels like to be away from one another for months at a time, and let me tell you, its not fun at all. I hope the time goes by quick for you. Good luck
Hub and I are VERY much like that. We’re each other’s best friend and honestly, I like him better than anyone else in the world! Why wouldn’t you want to spend more time with someone like that!