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Today is Election Day for the Michigan Primary. And because it is a very important election, Dear Hubby (DH) and I made it a point to vote. In fact, we applied for our absentee ballots for the first time ever.

And that’s why I can say that I’ve already voted … and I have the pictures to prove it!

The downside of not voting in person? We did not receive our “I Voted” sticker šŸ˜’

This Man.

Happy Birthday to this man. Heā€™s my love, my soulmate, my best friend.

Heā€™s my Aladdin šŸ§žā€ā™‚ļø to his Jasmine šŸ‘°šŸ»

My Carl šŸŽˆ to his Ellie šŸŖ

Thereā€™s no one else with whom I want to grow old.

Love you to infinity and beyond šŸ’—šŸ’–šŸ’—

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Perspective on Racism

Long rant below. Scroll past this post if you donā€™t want to be annoyed by my opinions
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If you are at all interested in Civil War American history, take a looky-see at this awesome half-hour documentary about statues honoring the Confederate States and the context of how these statues are memorialized.

Two things about it:

  1. Listen closely to how Mr. Cotton describes his name, and
  2. I will *never* forget being in Charleston for work-related training.

Let me just tell you the story of my Clinical Instructor. She grew up close to Charleston and was part of the United Daughters of the Confederacy. During that week of training, we somehow got on the topic of the Civil War. That instructor pointedly stated, ā€œIt wasnā€™t a war about slaveryā€ and ā€œWe donā€™t call it the Civil War. We call it The War of Northern Aggression.ā€ Now imagine this person saying it in a southern drawl.ā€ I was left speechless.

I get honoring your ancestors to remember your past, but you should also see it in the eyes of someone whose family were destroyed because of it. So yes, burn them down! But ā€¦ I believe that art is art and these statues should be appreciated for what they are: An important part of our countryā€™s history. But provide context as to why it was built and the part of *American* History it honors, for Peteā€™s sake!

With that said, please ALSO watch the this other video before reading the rest of this rant. Itā€™s a great lecture about ā€œheritage.ā€ Iā€™ve learned something new in the wee hours of the morning (Thanks A LOT, Kurt! šŸ˜)

And now the rest of my rant.

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What a GREAT video that outlines what use those statues / monuments served during that time in history. It recognizes that ā€“ when they were built, they serviced that town or cityā€™s need to feel ā€œsuperiorā€ to others. It celebrates their ā€œHeritage,ā€ so to speak, at a time when these cities and towns felt threatened by someone else that didnā€™t look like them or sound like them.

THATā€™S the narrative and context I was talking about up above. This is why I believe that, rather than defacing a monument / statue, they should be ā€œdisplayedā€ somewhere else where it can be observed and discussed of American History.

That said, I truly believe that statues of ā€œSouthern Prideā€ (including that d*mn Confederate flag) do NOT belong in ANY public space. Because yes, they are a symbol of White Supremacy. Rather than destroy or deface these statues or monuments, some of them (not all) should be displayed in a place where people WANT to learn about why many of the other statues / monuments were torn down during our period in time.

Clearly I am a #BlackLivesMatter person. Iā€™m just saying that those ā€œsymbolsā€ are part of our history, whether we like it or not. Seeing them on display (at a history or art museum) could serve as a talking point to discuss racism both now and then. It could serve as an explanation of how we got to where we are right now; the Tipping point, as is mentioned in that second video.

This person is spot on in saying that at this moment in time, there has been more support and understanding of racism. And more of an understanding of what itā€™s like to be judged by the color of your skin, or what you look like from the outside.

Take me, for example. I can name *several* instances growing up in a relatively blue collar neighborhood of experiencing little micro-aggression because I was Asian:

How the manager of my first job called me Connie Chung, implying that because Iā€™m Asian, I was smart like ā€œAll Asiansā€ are. (Psst ā€¦Not true. I came very close to failing chemistry and microbiology at Oakland University.)

Or how Iā€™ve been called an ā€œOriental Dollā€ or, better yet ā€“ a ā€œShogun Princess. ā€ By a classmateā€™s dad, nonetheless.

Iā€™m ashamed of myself for not being brave enough to correct them, but I was only a kid. How do you tell a grown adult that you are NOT Chinese OR Japanese when youā€™re 9 or 10?

Then there was the time when I was 16, I was referred to (by a teacher, nonetheless, as ā€œOriental.ā€ Itā€™s as if I were just an object on display or a particular design style (Oriental rug, vase, painting, etc). To me, that term is one of the most, if not the number one thing that gets to this 1st generation Filipino-American.

I now tell people that I hate the term ā€œOrientalā€ because it sounds like Iā€™m being lumped into ALL Asian ethnicities, as if we were all one in the same.

Now that Iā€™m assertive enough to say something, itā€™s surprising how people react: angry for being called out, remorse for not realizing how ā€œOrientalā€ is considered offensive by most Asian-Americans.

I use my experiences as a talking point for those who might not realize that thereā€™s more to being Asian than the ā€œModel Minorityā€ weā€™ve been labeled as.

  • No, weā€™re NOT automatically smart.
  • No, not all of us become doctors, nurses, engineers, or accountants.
  • No, weā€™re NOT automatically smart. No, not all of us become doctors, nurses, or accountants.
  • Yes, I can speak perfectly clear English, so stop telling me you donā€™t understand what Iā€™m saying because of my ā€œaccent.ā€

My point is that we shouldnā€™t forget how we got here. And having CLEAR examples of racism can help more people to understand why itā€™s horrible and sickening.

Okay. Off soapbox for now.

Literally. Anyone. Else.

I received this pin from a wonderful coworker of mine. I was tempted to pin it to my mask at work ā€¦ then thought better, as that would be disrespectful to our patients and coworkers.

You see, Iā€™m more a ā€walk a mile in my shoesā€ person. And as a frontline worker, my modus operandi has always been ā€œfirst do no harm.ā€

Whereas 45ā€™s tends to be based on reaction, rather than providing a well-thought out, research & fact-driven response.

Is that who you want to run our country?

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